[info]ethernight
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September 22nd, 2004 11:32 am

It is a strange dynamic, strange set of principles that arise in the livejournal community. I linked to this set of guidelines for awhile as I pretty much agree with everything in the Personal Relationships and Privacy section. However since the rest I am either neutral on, or outright disagree with, it seemed like a good idea all around to write a bit on my own personal perspective on livejournal etiquette.

So, some stuff:

  • I tend to add friends on a whim, after seeing an interesting comment you left, or hearing something cool about you from someone else, or even seeing a link to your livejournal from some external site. It does not mean that I have made any judgements whatsoever about who you are as a person or what kind of relationship I want us to have.


    • I will just as quickly remove you from my friends list if I find that after reading for a bit, your journal was not resonating with me. This doesn't mean that I think you are an uninteresting or less worthwhile person, (although hey, it might.) It is most likely that your subject matter or writting style is one that doesn't mesh well with my perspective or the place I am in my life.</li>

  • Feel free to add me, but it doesn't necessarily mean an add-back. Don't feel obligated to ask permission, but if you want me to notice you letting me know you is a good way, since livejournal doesn't notify of new additions.


  • If I know you external to livejournal - hi!

    I would ask that you kindly let me know when you start reading my journal. Chances are, you are welcome here. In the off chance that it bothers me that you are reading, I'll let you know how I feel - but of course it is a public website and as such you are free to continue reading as you please. This of course would make you an unfathomably bad person, but that's okay because you have to live life being a bad person, and I've got filters.


  • Some people have come to the understandable conclusion just because I have a public journal, that all aspects of my life are to be considered an open book. That is very much not the case. I am in fact a very private person with many aspects of my life and myself. If I am writing about something vaguely, chances are it is intentional. You are welcome to ask whatever questions you would like, but I am also welcome not to answer them.


  • If you decide to contact me via chat, please read my CHAT README first.


  • I have a local filter. If your in the LA area, or within reasonable driving distance and want on, comment to this post.


  • Please put your memelette HTML behind a cut. I have been known to de-friend people for filling up my pretty friends page with ugly and broken quiz results.
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From:[info]haleluwah
Date:August 5th, 2005 - 11:18 pm
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Hey, my wife and I just moved to the LA area, you're into the jossverse too, so if your local filter has that going on (serenity screenings etc) lemme on-
I'm also adding you cause I have like 10 friends.
Thanks-
Dan
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From:[info]pix_kristin
Date:March 17th, 2006 - 08:34 am
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Greetings.

I'm local and met you (briefly as I entered) at the party you organized last weekend. You were also kind enough to answer all of the stupid, last-minute emails I sent with questions about said party. I regretted that I didn't take the time to find and thank you in person for it--it was a truly fabulous night, and I enjoyed it a lot.

I've read your chat guidelines and couldn't agree more with the common courtesies you seek. You can click on my LJ profile for details about me, but my journal itself is pretty heavily filtered (the public part of it is mainly memes I've gotten sucked into and the occassional attempt at wit). I'd be happy to friend you, but lately I've been feeling like my posts are tedious and mundane. Too much work and no play makes Kristin a dull journaller.

In any case, I wanted to let you know I was poking about in your LJ for courtesy's sake.
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From:[info]pix_kristin
Date:March 17th, 2006 - 08:41 am
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(Gratuitous followup...)

I just saw that you're a Jossverse fan, which made me grin. I'm a Buffista (Phoenix Board), so it's always nice to meet another like-minded sort.
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From:[info]ethernight
Date:March 17th, 2006 - 10:42 pm
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Hi there,

Thanks for stopping by, and for coming to the party! I'm glad to hear you had a good time!

I've added you, but no obligation to do the same. I notice you've got [info]l_aga on your flist - did you know her before the event, or did you meet her there?

Well, see you around elljay!

Alissa
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From:[info]pix_kristin
Date:March 18th, 2006 - 01:02 am
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I met [info]l_aga at the party, and we caught a movie earlier this week. She's a sweetheart; I had a great time.
From:[info]lilium_vitiate
Date:February 21st, 2007 - 08:49 am
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Hi there!
I feel like I should know you from somewhere, but it's possible that I don't. You commented on an entry I left in [info]kiss_sa_ten's journal (who I know via Sins), though, and your writing seems interesting and you yourself seem like a pretty neat person, so I'll add you back, if you don't mind!
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From:[info]ethernight
Date:February 22nd, 2007 - 12:00 am
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It's doubtful that you've met me. In spite of my efforts, I've only manated to hang out with [info]kiss_sa_ten once.

I never mind when people add me, but especially not when they're cool! *waves*
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From:[info]lilium_vitiate
Date:February 22nd, 2007 - 02:58 am
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Well, then I don't feel bad for not remembering you. :)

*dances around on your page a little before heading out*
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